We do everything just to stay happy.
When we were a child, we had more happiness in our life and less sadness.
Gradually, when we grew up, the happiness decreased and the sadness increased. Why this happens?
In this article i will show you the reason and finally find out a solution to stay happy in life.
When you were a kid, your mother was enough to make you happy.
Gradually, when you are a little older then there is also a need for a friend to be happy with the mother.
Then when you are teen, then there is also a need of a life partner with the mother and friend.
After that, you need a good job,good car,good house etc with these.
As long as you go your condition to stay happy increased.
The more conditions added, the happiness was reduced. And sorrow began to grow.
If you look attentively, it would not be difficult for you to understand that when you were kid and happy the expectation with life was less.
At first you were happy with your mom then friend and so on. Expectation with life increased and happiness decreased.
There are 2 kinds of expectations,
- Outer world expectation
- Inner world expectation
Outer world expectation: Outer world expectation means what you expect from other people.
Example: You expect your boss should not be so angry with you or your life partner should love you little more etc.
These outer world expectation are priceless and harmful.
Your boss will not change just for your expectation to him or your life partner will not love you much.
There is no good effect on these on your expectation. But there is bad effect.
Let me give you a example: Suppose you are just married and you want to be your partners favorite. And another guy just married and started loving his life partner without any expectation. He is just enjoying his married life.
Who is more happier?
This fear comes because you want to control something that you have no control over.
Do you think that if you do everything perfectly your boss gonna like you or stop being angry with you?
This is your boss’s wish. If he think he will be angry to you then he can be angry to you.
You have no control in it.
These kind of expectations are meaning less. And it decreases happiness.
Inner world expectation: Inner world expectation means what you expect from yourself. Such as- I will make 6 pack in 6 month or i will lose 5 KG in 2 month etc.
Now days we lost control in it.
Our own mind, our bodies, do not work with our instructions.
Because if you had an option to make happiness inside yourself or to create sorrow
What would you have made? Of course happiness 😀
We cannot control our mind our soul but we try to control others mind! Strange!
Inner world expectation also kills happiness of life. We think we will wake up tomorrow at 6,
we wake up at 10 and shout.
Shouldn’t We Expect On Ourselves? How Can We Improve In Life?
There is no connection between expectation and improvement.
It’s a very popular misconception.
If you read worlds top successful people life story they you will notice that they never expected themselves on their current position.
There are many people who never expected on their current position right now. But they reached.
They have reached that position very quickly because they did not expected.
They enjoyed and worked freely with love.
To Stay Happy
There is no meaning to keep outer world expectation, remove them all.
They are all time harmful.
Inner world expectation can be profitable if your body and mind follows your instruction. Other wise they are also harmful.
I will not lose 10 kg weight in 1 month, I will lose 1 kg.
Not wake up at 6 i will wake up at 8 instead of 10.
Keep the inner world expectation which is possible.
Now everything depends on you that you will keep those expectation or not.
Top 5 quotes about happiness
Quote no 1:
Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.- Jim Rohn
Quote no 2:
Every day is a new day, and you’ll never be able to find happiness if you don’t move on. -Carrie Underwood
Quote no 3:
Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy. There’s going to be stress in life, but it’s your choice whether you let it affect you or not. -Valerie Bertinelli
Quote no 4:
The secret to happiness is freedom… And the secret to freedom is courage. -Thucydides
Quote no 5:
Happiness doesn’t depend on any external conditions, it is governed by our mental attitude. -Dale Carnegie